Are you feeling as if working hard is just not enough anymore? Are you overwhelmed by daily responsibilities? Does your life lack joy? Have you lost sight of who you are and what you're doing?
If so, it may be because you've been trying to achieve balance the wrong way. When most people decide they want better balance in their lives, they do so by focusing on ways to overcome the factors causing imbalance. The problem with this is that they are focusing on what they don't want. The result is that they inadvertently attract more of what isn't wanted.
The Law of Attraction states that whatever a person is focused upon attracts more things, people and situations that have the same or similar vibration. It is the mind that leads us to a state of balance. So, balance comes when we focus our mind on the balance we want and take action consistently in that direction.
How does it feel to have a balanced life?
When life is balanced, it just feels right. You know it because you enjoy life and feel fully present and happily engaged. You find meaning in what you do and who you are.
You know you have achieved balance when:
- You wake up in the morning eager to begin your day and fall asleep at night with a smile on your face.
- You have a vision of what your life will be like this year and spend your time where it counts to make it happen.
- You have time set aside each day to relax and have fun.
So, how do you achieve this kind of balance?
Not by believing that if you only had more money, more time, and more energy, you'd finally have a balanced life. No. Having more won’t help you to achieve balance.
Instead, you have to have less. The kind of less that simplifies your life, focuses your energies, and makes room for you to have plenty of time to pursue what interests you.
Finding balance in today's frenetically paced world is no simple task. Yet it can be done. One way I have done this in my life is to complete a Life Preview each year. Every January, I set aside time to sit down with paper, a pencil, and a chai tea latté to warm my hands. I sit on my favorite spot on the couch where I can watch the snow falling and the cardinals playing. Then I plan my Life Preview.
I begin by writing across the top of my paper:
What My Life Will Be Like in 2010
Then I draw lines creating three columns on the page: Purpose, Outcomes, and Theme. In each column I write a corresponding attraction statement, as follows:
- Column One – Purpose
In 2010 I will __________. I will focus on __________. (This statement summarizes the major activities and goals I'm energetically aligning myself with this year.)
- Column Two – Outcomes
At the end of 2010, I will ____________. (This statement defines the key measureable outcomes I will achieve based on the goals I set above.)
- Column Three – Theme
This time next year, _____________. (Here I declare to the Universe the most important outcome for me to achieve, by saying out loud, "2010 is the year of ____________.")
I take some time thinking about my purpose, the outcomes I desire, and my theme for the coming year. Then I fill in the blanks in each statement.
Next, under the "Purpose" column, I categorize my goals. Some categories might include relationships, finances, health, etc. Under "Outcomes," I list what next steps I need to take to achieve each of my goals. Under "Theme" I list the deadlines for each of the actions I set for myself.
Finally, I take my calendar out and set dates in the spring, summer, fall, and winter when I will return to my favorite spot on the couch to review my Life Preview. This helps me see how I'm doing, make certain I'm on track, and make adjustments as needed. In this way, I ensure that I'm intentionally using the Law of Attraction to attract exactly what I want into my life this year.
For most people, juggling the demands of work, family, friends, leisure, recreation, and alone time is an ongoing challenge. Yet when you take the time to complete a Life Preview for the year ahead, you utilize the powerful Law of Attraction to achieve balance in your life. As you set the intention for what you want, the Law of Attraction partners with you to bring your life into balance.
* * * * *Dr. Susan L. Reid is a business coach and consultant for entrepreneurial women starting businesses. She is the award-winning author of “Discovering Your Inner Samurai: The Entrepreneurial Woman’s Journey to Business Success,” and has a free chapter PDF of her most popular chapter: “Doing What You Love: Multiple Streams of Passion” for those who want see how persistence, patience and practice can really pay off.