Be specific. Creating a ranked list of specific money issues that are stressing you the most can be the foundation of a good plan to reduce financial stress. Keep your list short – too many items may overwhelm – and try framing each with a positive vibe, such as, “I would feel so much better if I did X, Y, and Z.”
If you’re married or in a long-term partnership, consider creating individual lists and then comparing them to see whether you’re on the same page. Disagreements about money can stress a relationship. If you’re having trouble finding common ground and devising a unified plan, consider turning to a financial planner or perhaps even a “financial therapist” – it’s a newly emerging discipline.2